Parenting can get very difficult. Especially if you’re a new one, you probably had days when you have not showered, were unable to answer phone calls and unavailable to go out with friends, or even sleep while standing up on the bus or train while going to work. We’ve all been there regardless if you’re a working parent or a stay-at-home parent.
No matter how much you enjoy spending time with your children, you will battle profound burnout. There will be days when you don’t think you can find the strength to wipe another nose or take another call from the PTA president.
As a mother, you need to make time to provide for your own needs even in small doses. Being able to set a “me time” can help alleviate and redirect stress, thus making everyone a lot happier. It’s also important to teach your family the importance of self-care.
Here are 5 ways you can overcome challenges of parenting and avoid getting burned out from it.
I can’t have enough sleep
Even if your kids are too old for naps, insist on a daily quiet time with soft music, puzzles or books.Setting quiet time does not only allow you to have some time to check on e-mails or tackle small chores, but you can also squeeze in a nap so you can at least get some sleep that you lacked at night.
I’m soooo tired
Don’t be hesitant to get help when you need it. Have your husband do some of the parenting or if he’s busy at work, ask the help of your in-laws or any member of the family. This way, you can have some time to work on other things or even take a break and have some alone time.
Make sure you pamper yourself every once in awhile. If you have the time and the money to indulge in a day spa visit, go for it! Otherwise, take the time to give yourself a fresh coat of nail polish, luxuriate in a hot bath, soak your tired feet, or sip hot cocoa with a good book. Do something that makes you feel amazing.
I always feel sluggish and weak
Taking care of kids can get draining in the long run. Make sure you do a little exercise everyday and get your body moving. Exercise is not just about losing weight. A little activity can also help your body gain strength and energy, and release some of your stress through physical work.
I can’t seem to have the time to do what I love. Who says you have to let go of your hobbies? Giving your all to your family doesn’t mean you have to give up your passions. Make sure you still make time doing what you love. Do you enjoy painting? Stitching? Sports? Perhaps you can find some classes in your area that you can attend to or form a group of moms with the same hobby.
Too many chores! So little me!
Sometimes you just need to take one item off of your to-do list. Ignore a non-essential chore or responsibility and endeavor to start over tomorrow. If you have older kids, ask them to do minor tasks like putting away their toys, cleaning the dishes, etc.
If you can ask help from other family members, swallow your pride and do so.
Start doing these tips today and get some well deserved rest. While yes, it is our responsibility to ensure that our kids’ needs are provided on a daily basis, we are also responsible for ourselves.