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What’s Your Child’s Play Personality?

Is your child shy? Exuberant? Aggressive? Or laid back?

Learning your child’s temperament and personality can truly help you in better understanding what your child is all about. While we, as parents, cannot change our child’s individuality and character, we can, however, influence them to becoming better individuals especially when dealing with other children.

We’re all born with different temperament and personalities. This set of traits makes each of us unique. It’s a powerful factor in determining how we would react to scenarios—be it positive or negative. The way a child approaches a new situation is a good example of temperament at work.

According to Hippocrates, there are four types of personalities (temperament) and these are:

Choleric – These are the kids who are always up for an adventure. They are determined, outspoken, competitive and strong-willed. These kids are the ones who displays leadership behavior and can make friends easily at the playground but can also make enemies as fast as they gain supporters. They can come off as intimidating but that is just because they are alphas and they seek to be the star.

Sanguine – Playful, sociable, talkative, lively and imaginative. The kids with sanguine personality are the best definition of extroverts. They love to socialize with other children and they enjoy having many friends. They are very expressive and loves attention.

Melancholic – Detailed, orderly, persistent, respectful, deep—these are often the traits associated with people who are said to have a melancholic temperament. Most of them are considered introverts and oftentimes emotionally sensitive. Melancholics wish to learn and understand details of every little thing as they are thought to be perfectionists.

Phlegmatic – They are the thoughtful and attentive ones. They are also introverts who would as much as possible try to resist confrontation to avoid conflict. They are very peace loving and would rather admit that they have done something wrong than get in an argument with someone.

Again, we can never alter a child’s personality even if we detect it early as each person is his own individual. The best we can do is to guide our kids as they grow and teach them the core values and most especially giving respect.

Here are some things you should take note of to determine your child’s temperament.

Intensity of reaction

playing with kitesSome kids are very vocal and would make sure to make you feel the intensity of their emotions. On the other hand, some kids will just shrug it off and chill. Determining your child’s reaction intensity can help you gauge how easy it is to tick them off or how deep they are in understanding a situation, or even in detecting confidence.

What you can do:

For big reactors, you can turn things down and try to anticipate blow ups. If you can, gently remove your child from potential explosive situations and redirect his attention to another activity. Also, getting enough rest can help cool down his temperament so make sure your kid gets enough rest.

For low-key children, you can do the opposite and turn things up to attract their attention. Devise activities that would get your kid engaged and moving.

Gauge Activity Level

Determine how often your child seeks for adventure or activity. Does he often walk around and explore the world? Or does he tend to sit and relax in one spot to play?

What you can do:

For active children, you may want to start limiting active play. Make sure play time stops 1 hour or 30 minutes before bedtime to slow him down. Also, offer him safer game varieties like hide and seek, freeze tag, and other games that are less hazardous yet fun.

For less active children, entice your child to move by placing an interesting toy beyond where he is currently sitting. Flying kites is one of the best activities you can encourage your child to move around without the fret of competition. 

Don’t force your child but rather take things slowly and follow his lead. Listen to music together. It’s easier to encourage your kid to move when your child sees you moving with the beat.

How Far Can He Tolerate Frustrations

How easy is it for your child to tolerate frustrations? A boy with high tolerance will keep trying to shoot a ball in the basket while the one with shorter tolerance may give up, cry and do another activity instead.

What you can do:

For a child with high tolerance, join your child during playtime. You interacting with your kid can help him build new skills. Check to see if he is spinning his wheels by trying the same strategy over and over. Suggest new ways to approach the challenge.

For low tolerance, be there when your child falls apart and try to encourage him. Help your child think through solutions that work out for him.

Response to Change

Children are generally known for being inflexible about routines. Some kids are even highly dependent on them. Some kids may react quickly to changes—whether through tantrums or through excitement—while others take things in stride.

What you can do:

Be sensitive to your child’s signals. Be attentive to how he reacts to any change and make sure you talk to them about these things. As much as possible you want to strengthen your communication with them and make them understand why such change occurred.

Meeting New People

Some kids are easy to warm up to new people while others aren’t. We’ve seen this very often how some children cries and yell in sight of an unfamiliar face while there are kids who manage to smile.

What you can do:

Always be ready to step in when needed. Never label your child as shy as this can further deteriorate your child’s confidence. Whenever possible, prepare your child to meet new people by visiting different places where there are usually a lot of opportunities for social interaction.

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